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Sometimes the best move, is no move at all
“An angry enemy is a conquered enemy”
― Bangambiki Habyarimana
I’ve learned the hard way not to fight anger with anger. More of the same energy never cancels it out. Instead, you create a raging fire that takes longer to put out. To cancel fury is to observe and not act at all. It is to see but not engage. To let things settle. To let the fire burn out. To acknowledge that no good will come from more rage. If you want true resolution, the best time to act is when the energy has settled.
But of course, it’s easy to rise to the fury. To see it, and feel it bubble inside you. But it’s a powerful realization that you have a choice. To rise or to stay exactly where you are. It’s a skill to master. It’s not easy to observe anger, especially when it’s directed at you and not rise to it. For some people, it takes months if not years of practice. Of realizing that getting worked up by someone else’s rage is wasted energy on your part. It took me years to learn that.
You are better than fighting anger with anger. You are not sound of mind when you are full of fury. Instead, you are polluted by rage. How often have you said something you later regret when you’re angry? It’s not the environment to make your best decisions or thoughts. Fury clouds your judgment and you want your judgement…
